Some Victories Over Problems - Arising from Counselling
poem was written by an 11 year old girl trying to deal with
peer relationships after moving to a new school. It was written
at home after our first counselling conversation and presented to
me at the beginning of the second interview.
broken puppet lies peacefully in a corner
Waiting silently for a puppeteer to rescue it
When suddenly the puppet's blanket is removed
blanket of dust and cobwebs
I open my eyes and seek what I longed for
I longed for love and friendship
They painted me and gave me a name
And added a few new strings
I was ready to perform for viewing pleasure
But then I realised I am not a puppet
Whose strings are pulled at leisure
But I realised this too late
Before I knew it I was down on their level
Walking down their path of deceit
didn't like that person
I longed to be free
I longed for them to respect me
It took courage and it took might
at least now nothing can spoil this delight
following statement was authored by a teenage young woman student
who was struggling with a father under the control of alcohol in
his life. This
statement was witnessed and supported by me and written during a
want to be in control of my own life.
want to be free from guilt in my life!!!!
I know I'm not responsible for decisions other people make in their
I do not have to apologise to other people for the feelings they
have about what they do.
I want to be myself without having to worry about what other people
think about me.
Guilt and negativity are trying to take over my life.
They are lying to me and trying to cheat me into believing that
I can't get close to other people because they might let me down
or I'm like my dad and I might let them down.
I am proud of my achievements in life and I should be appreciated
I value my friendship with people and I refuse to let guilt and
negativity take away the knowledge that I know I'm OK.
Guilt and negativity are very strong influences in my life and as
I get stronger I know they will get weaker.
I want them out of my life and I will win!
I am becoming the "Pauline" that I want to be and nothing can take
that away from me.
I've got to the point where I will do anything to free myself from
the guilt and negativity and get passed (Pauline's own spelling)
it to get on with life happily.
OF LIFE CERTIFICATE
following are the words on a certificate that was written with
me by a young man who was experiencing the effects of severe
depression in his life. I co-wrote the words in consultation with
the young man during a counselling conversation whilst sitting at
the computer together.
"PAUL" on achieving Stage 1 and Stage 2 of controlling your life.
1. Telling my mum about my life properly that I have been feeling
very insecure and not sure of anything at the moment and that my
mind has been everywhre else.
2. Making the decision to talk with a counsellor; and to see a doctor
about my health; and to take some time off work.
completion of these stages means that I now have HOPE that I can
see something else out there to secure myself enough to make decisions
about life and to be able to talk to people about it. These people
are mum and people in my family.
now have HOPE that I can get on with the rest of my life.
is the beginning of further stages of celebrating life and being
the Paul I want to be.
Witnessed (by Tony)